Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the
tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they
are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the
rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy .... So
the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in
reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man
to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to
the top of the tree. Share with other women who are good apples, even
those who have already been picked!

And ...

Men are like a fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it's up to
women to stomp the crap out of them until they turn into something
acceptable to have dinner with.

Currently listening to ...

小时侯

小时候常常望着窗外的天空
幻想长大以后
能实现从前作过的美梦
长大后发现世界真的不同
不知该要往哪走
还是停在原地一动也不动
我无力再逃脱
眼看着时间溜走
想回到小时候
I wanna stay
Or stay away
I wanna stay
Oh 最真最美丽的童年
我stay
I wanna stay
Or stay away

（闽南语）
听你讲你讲
为什么大汉之后
世界拢变的不同 （全变的不同）
是不是听到小时候的那条歌
我的目屎 就会直直流不离 擦不离

继续唱 唱到阮完全拢无声
才了解阮要对叼飞 叼位走
是不是大汉之后 大汉之后 大汉之后
阮才知道 咱的辛苦 才有价值

Open Relationships - The Pros n Cons

Having an O.R might not be as easy as you might have heard. The advantages are obvious.. you are both free to sleep with anyone you find attractive and do it without guilt or fear of being found out. You enjoy each other's company, you have alot in common, and you love each other. It's like having your cake and eating it too, in every flavour you crave. An O.R really can be ideal.. if you can manage it.

But life is rarely ideal, an O.R may require more work than a normal one. The biggest obstacle most people faced would be "Jealousy". Jealousy stems from insecurity, fearing that we are unworthy or not as worthy(attractive, itelligent, successful) as someone else. We all want to be liked, even if we claim otherwise. We want to be respected for not giving a damn, for being ourselves. And no matter how confident we may be, we all deal with insecurity to a certain extent. Some people are so consumed with feelings of inadequacy that jealousy is the dominant force in their lives. Their relationships are battlefields, constant competitions in which everyone loses because those inflicted with feelings of inferiority are too insecure to be satisfied with equality. They strive to feel superior which requires dominance and control.

Even those with a rather positive self-image are susceptible to jealousy. No matter how attractive, intelligent or successful we are, there will always be someone whom we think has us beaten in one or more departments. Can your relationship survive if you feel that your partner might prefer someone else to you?

These and other questions will have to be asked and thoroughly answered before a successful O.R is possible.. like questions of commitment, love and emotional bond in your relationship.

Overall, relationships take alot of work. Sometimes an O.R is nothing more than a way to avoid the responsibilities that are a natural part of sharing your life with another person. An O.R, though promising freedom, can also offer escape. And there is a difference.. if you see an O.R as a quick-fix to a problem neither of you are willing to discuss or believe that it's beyond repair, then it's purely an escape.. it'll never result in genuine freedom. But if freedom is what you seek from an O.R, and you and your partner are willing to give it a try, know what you both hope to accomplish. Look both ways before crossing the road or you'll never make it to the other side.

Just remember the golden rule if you want to opt for an O.R - "When it's time to let go, let it go." Don't cling on to your partner like a parasite, hoping that it's possible for a 2nd chance, when your partner wants to end the whole O.R. That's not how the game is supposed to be played.


Kudos to Brian from Date.com for providing the interesting article on The Pros and Cons of an Open Relationship , thus making this possible :)

Love Will Keep Us Alive

I was standing
All alone against the world outside
You were searching
For a place to hide

Lost and lonely
Now you've given me the will to survive
When we're hungry.. love will keep us alive

Don't you worry
Sometimes you've just gotta let it ride
The world is changing
Right before your eyes

Now I've found you
There's no more emptiness inside
When we're hungry.. love will keep us alive

I would die for you
Climb the highest mountain
Baby, there's nothing I wouldn't do

I was standing
All alone against the world outside
You were searching
For a place to hide
Lost and lonely
Now you've given the will to survive
When we're hungry.. love will keep us alive
When we're hungry.. love will keep us alive
When we're hungry.. love will keep us alive

*Lovely song isn't it? never fail to bring tears to my eyes*

Boring Saturday afternoon

I wanna fall asleep but I can't
I wanna catch a show but I can't
What fun is it when you watch a show alone
What good is it when you go out alone

Put down all your baggages
Put down all your heart
Just go out and spend your day
Alone in the park

Having this said
It looks like it's going to rain
I'll try and go to bed
Then do this over again


*gosh... damn cheesy if I say so myself :p*

The Origin..

Name:Setzer

OK, here's some more speculation. "Setzer" by itself means "typesetter" (hardly a meaningful name). But the German expression used when betting on numbers or horses is "setzen"! For example, "10 Mark auf Nummer 23 setzen" means "bet 10 Marks on number 23". So "Setzer" could imply "the one who puts down the money -> "gambler"; though I've never heard the word "Setzer" used to mean "gambler". Anyway, it's still nice-sounding even if it's a coincidence. It's my single favorite character name in the entire FF series.


Quoted from http://www.ffcompendium.com/h/nchara.shtml

My Best Friend's Wedding - Part 1

This is the first time that I'm involved in a wedding other than eating n drinking. I'm in charged of coming up with ideas for games n stuff when the groom comes over.. hah thank god I'm not one of the "brothers".. must think of something to tekan them.. if not the groom :p *rubbing hands in glee*

Went to one of the bridal shop along Tras Street yesterday evening to accompany Din, and her sisters to check it out.. the gowns were so-so n so were the service.. and the prices they charged were quite high too. But she look so nice in a wedding dress.. I guess everyone would look nice anyways. Later jack came along to "provide" his opinions.. the poor man even tried to bribe me, saying that he'll give big ang pows for the "sisters" and to let him off easily ... *fat hope* I'll take a big angpow but will still torture u. Ha Ha.. who ask u to marry my best friend!

After which, couldn't really decide to take up the package from Ted Wu or not, so off we went for dinner at Great World, n later across the road to Karen's place for further discussions. But at the end of the day, nothing was decided.. backdrops for the wedding, theme of the wedding, wedding favours, dinner venue (deciding between good wood or intercon), guest list, invitation cards..etc haha damn jialat. But will meet again this evening to brainstorm on the different torture methods we can come up with... Must have at least 2 plans just in case.. hehe.. so exciting!!

-continuation-

Urrghhhhhhh... dat day ask u whether when will you be free to meet n u said today, now ask u wat time you wanna meet u tell me say u dun think so.. cos very tired n going KL tomorrow for ur holiday.. how lame can it get? I really wonder... do you even care about your friend's wedding? Fuck it.. I can do this on my own. Out of courtesy I want ur opinions, since u dun bother, I'm not going to be bothered with you too. _|_

Horoscope

Capricorn
December 22-January 19

There is a rumor that Capricorns are the best lovers of the zodiac when they feel stable and secure and can see the long term purpose of the union they are in. The focused determination of Saturn as a guiding light brings the same unequaled force into the bedroom and into the relationship as they apply to building their life and their security. Capricorn is slow to trust and even slower to love but once their heart is given there is very little they won't do
to back up and support and love their mate.

The symbolism of Capricorn is the Seagoat...a useful metaphor is the ability to penetrate both environments on earth water and land. Spiritually...they can conquer both the spirit and the body. Love is nothing less than a goal and they are capable of approaching it with the same dedication as they approach any other important endeavor in their life.

They are loyal, nurturing caregivers and supporters at their best. Cold, calculating and emotionally repressed at their worst. The realm of feelings is the hardest plane for Capricorns to come to terms with as it is based on an energy that they cannot control . Once they accept and embrace their emotional beings they are human dynamos who add strength, conviction and longevity to love.

Capricorn Sexuality
When they are secure within themselves and within a partnership they can take their lover to the peaks of sexual mountaintops.

They know how to apply patience and dedication to discovering how to please and their leisurely approach to getting to know a mates intimate secrets promises that they possess an almost push button control of their partners sexual desires.

It is not the pure and raw driving sexuality of Scorpio...nor the romantic and enchanting passion of Libra...it is a combination of the human physical need for sex and the spirits need to experience the height of a pleasure and to merge it into one. A soul moving encounter that brings the primal...into the spiritual.

The Long Term Story
Capricorns require patience and dedication. They are often shy and awkward in their emotions early on growing in strength and acceptance the longer they stay within a union.

They need to have a purpose behind their actions and a purpose behind the relationship. They take the initial investment of heart to the building of a long term commitment with the same serious intent that they conquer all their mountains in life.

They can be domineering and cold if they are not in touch with their feeling centers. Materialistic and self serving as well. Once committed most Capricorns stay committed as they are bound to a sense of responsibility. It takes a lot to sever a serious Capricorn tie but once it is severed...they can be vengeful and hateful.

They are not always the best judge of character and so let downs and relationship break ups become personal mistakes that they often repress and refuse to accept. They provide one of the most secure and empowering bonds when they are completely in love.

Positive Traits in Love
Loyal, dedicated, patient, kind, generous, supportive, serious, dependable, tolerant, attentive.

Negative Traits
Possessiveness, control, coldness and aloofness, lack of emotional tolerance or depth, materialistic, narrow minded, vindictive, bitter, melancholy.

What a Capricorn Likes
Loyalty, Feeling secure, Financial/material stability, Ambitious mates, Feeling committed, Making long term relationship plans Dependability, Reliability, Perseverance

What a Capricorn Dislikes
Flightiness, Being bossed around, Crudeness/coarseness, Dominance, Game playing, Ego displays, Extravagance Being challenged by a lover, Indecisiveness

Capricorn Love Keywords
Loyal, ambitious, dedicated, focused, honesty, disciplined, severe, possessive, controlling, cold, calculating

Sharing some thoughts about the big "L"

Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry"; not "where are you' but "I'm right here"; not "how could you" but "I understand"; not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are."

ENGAGED
The True measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.

NOT-SO-SINGLE
Those who have "special someone" .... Love isn't about becoming somebody else's "perfect person." It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.

HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.

NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble; be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.

POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.

AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.

STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and we just have to let go.

SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it would come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but oftentimes it hurts, but love's only special when you give it to whom it's worth. So take your time and choose the best. : )

With This Day

They say take a chance
Live life on the edge
Never look back
Look forward instead

Don't worry, be happy
To thine own self be true
Live life to the fullest
Do what you must do

Live in the present
Let go of the past
Give it all you've got
Make the good times last

Stop and smell the roses
Give each person a smile
'Tis the first day of your life
So make it worthwhile

Yet, some of us hear this

Today's just a present
That's been given to you

It can be gone in an instant
It could be taken away
So, take good care not to miss out
On what you could do with this day.

~Elizabeth Parillo~

Argh... blardy wallpaper... I'll go find something else... but for now... that'll have to do.